Ways to Cope

When thinking of things to blog about I began thinking about where my last post left me wondering. Once I had found out that if you say "never the less" or "regardless repeatedly and calmly it de-escalates the issue I mentioned it to my family member. I also asked her how she coped with her son refusing to do things she asked of him. She told me a story about how when she was driving he would get out of his car seat multiple times and refuse to sit in it. She said that her method of coping was giving him an ultimatum that he didn't like. In this situation she pulled over and told him that he had two choices. He had to choose between standing there and waiting for her to pick him up later or he could come with them and sit in his car seat. She said that this worked for her son but it might not be the best way to cope with a child who as ODD. I looked more into solutions or how a family might cope and after reading multiple articles this one really stuck out at me.

http://www.squidoo.com/Oppsitional-Defiant-Children

This article stuck out at me because it has 13 tips for families and how they can cope when they have a child with ODD in their family. I also noticed that from reading a couple websites most of them included some of the same key strategies to use when coping with ODD. They said to stay consistent, learn the child's warning signs, pick your battles, and look for positives. I am interested in finding out what happens when a child who has ODD gets older. Does the child still have Oppositional Defiant Disorder? Does the defiant behavior increase or decrease? Do the strategies or tips that are suggested still work or does the family have to find other ways to cope? I wonder if I can receive answers to my questions through research.